Dominance is guiding another to feel emotions unimagined, joys never before thought possible and affection without measure.

Submission is a gift that must be earned through passion and compassion; it can be given, but never taken.

Helping my partner to let go completely, accepting only her very best.

The energy of the moment is everything.

To make love to her with a single caress, to feel her heart beat from across the room, to know her thoughts by looking in her eyes...

I will settle for nothing less, and neither should you.

~*author unknown*~

Inside The Manor you will find the atmosphere to be a relaxed BDSM chat room where you will encounter many people with different views on BDSM and the Total Power Exchange ( TPE ). The Manor is a safe haven for those that are open minded or curious, to enter without fear of being judged.

BDSM stands for "bondage and discipline, domination and submission, and sadism and masochism"and describes a form of human sexual behaviour involving amongst other things sexual sado-masochism in a context that is sometimes referred to as SSC (safe, sane and consensual) though others prefer Risk Aware Consensual Kink. That is to say, BDSM is not sexual abuse, which is non-consensual.

Those that are NOT involved in the BDSM lifestyle ( Vanilla - slang for things that are not "kinky" or not related to sexual Dominance and submission ) are welcome to come in and explore, we do however ask that you respect those within. While you may not agree with ones personal choices please keep it to yourself. RESPECT is a must in this room or you will be asked to leave. Remember there is a difference between curiousity and blatant insult. Choose your words carefully and be intelligent in your conversations.

We ask that you remember NOT to automatically think that any uncollared submissive are here to serve any Dominant. If you ask the submissive and they decline then please respect that. This is NOT gor, there will be NO forcing. BDSM is SSC = Safe, Sane, and Consensual, that will be upheld.

Public scening is not only welcomed it is encouraged. Please be respectful of the scenes in progress by keeping any comments to a minimum or else take it private until the scene is finished.

BDSM activities are described as "play" in BDSM terminology. The BDSM term is a portmanteau acronym intended to take in all of the following activities:

* "Bondage and Discipline" play (B & D)
* Domination_and_Submission and Submission play (D & S) (including "master and slave" role-playing scenarios)
* Sadomasochism (S & M)

Some BDSM terminology:

* top
* bottom
* submissive (sub)
* dominant (dom) (also dominatrix)
* switch
* safeword
* fetishism
* paraphilia
* edgeplay
* handkerchief codes
* servitude
* collared
* collaring
* Risk-aware consensual kink - Risk Aware Consensual Kink
* SSC - Safe, Sane and Consensual

Note that it's common to begin dominant terms with an upper case, for example: Top, Master, Dom etc'.

While the atmosphere is relaxed there are rules that must be enforced due to the online nature of this venue:

** Anyone under the age of 18 is forbidden from enter. You must be 18 or older to enter as this is a adult themed chat room.

** You are to greet Dom/Dommes as Sir or Ma'am unless other wise requested.

** Subs who are owned are expected to wear their proper collar or name of their Owner in their name to show who they belong to.

** Do not PM without permission

** No Anonymous Names,Initial Names or Underage names will be acceptable.This includes dots, single letters, numbers or any other names that are percieved as anonymous names. You will be asked to change and will be removed from the room if you do not comply.

** Posting of images containing child porn, bestiality, scat, or what otherwise maybe considered illegal is not allowed and will get you booted and banned from the room and site.

** Public or Private Harassment of people is unacceptable, Violators will be removed from the room and banned.

** Snide remarks or messages posted for no other reason than to be mean or vindictive will not be tolerated. You will be asked to leave and if you choose not to comply a mod will help you. 3 strikes your out rule will be enforced. First a Warning and Second you will be booted. Third Strike a ban from the room will be forced.

** Everyone has the right to refuse, and the right to choose their limits. No means exactly that NO.

** Avatar sizes are limited to 350 pixels in height.

** No Animated Images Allowed

** We ask all to respect and give a chance to say good bye to you if you choose to leave the room. subs are to ask for permission from a Dom if one is present...Unless r/t emergency comes involved

** It is encouraged that you speak up and voice your opinions, never keep silent. If something is broken how can it be fixed with out voice?

** No off site room tags or Advertising allowed here in The Manor room. Anything that is on this site (Dark Realms Chat) will be allowed. Anything off site we ask you to remove your tags out of respect of us and the site and please don't advertise.

** While we do encourage open scenes in the room please do remember this is not a room of just cyber sex. The Manor chat room is not a private lounging room for just cyber sex. We chose to leave the privately whispers in to allow ones to be able to speak privately with in limits. If your wanting alone time with your partner please take it elsewhere.

** Quick or Forced collars Not be knowledged here.

** Leave your drama at the door

If someone is breaking the rules above and a mod of The Manor is currently unavailable, we give permission for you to seek out another moderator from one of the other realms to step in and take care of the problem by using the Mod Pager.

** We do ask that if any moderator does step in and do so to please copy and paste the time stamp of the problem and report it to the owners.

Furthering education resource links:

http://www.castlerealm.com
http://www.domsub.info/main.html
http://www.thebrc.net
http://www.leathernroses.com/lnrhome.htm
http://www.nelaonline.org/NELA.php - For those in New England
http://www.ne-ds.org - (formerly the Boston Dungeon Society)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/National_Leather_Association_International
http://www.iron-rose.com/IR/library.htm

"Our lives improve only when we take chances- and the first and most difficult risk we can take is to be honest with ourselves."

--Walter Anderson

The Manor family would like to give a special thank you to flame for helping out with some of the wording on the entrance page. Thank you flame!